You are the one avoiding the issue by not confronting racism. You seem to have normalized it. Racism of lower expectations probably.
A few things are important: how often do you see said family members, how close is your partner to them and does he/she stand up for you? In OP’s case, it seems like they are pretty close and that she didn’t cut it off immediately and let him fend for himself. You would avoid the issue and try to win them over, I would keep my dignity and leave.
The example you gave is not even racist btw. More of a cultural thing. Some people eat and drink things that you have to grow up with/get used to.
And no, my wife’s family is not racist to me. You know that is also an option, right? Not everybody hates white people. Maybe it’s just you and it has nothing to do with race, idk.
If you even consider taking this absolute goofball seriously you need to give your head a shake
This girl is completely out of control and you should only consider her as a short term thing AT BEST
personally I’d be deleting her number and never speaking again. You do t need this nonsense in your life
You are the one avoiding the issue by not confronting racism. You seem to have normalized it. Racism of lower expectations probably.
A few things are important: how often do you see said family members, how close is your partner to them and does he/she stand up for you? In OP’s case, it seems like they are pretty close and that she didn’t cut it off immediately and let him fend for himself. You would avoid the issue and try to win them over, I would keep my dignity and leave.
The example you gave is not even racist btw. More of a cultural thing. Some people eat and drink things that you have to grow up with/get used to.
And no, my wife’s family is not racist to me. You know that is also an option, right? Not everybody hates white people. Maybe it’s just you and it has nothing to do with race, idk.
My guess would be that he believes he is more intelligent than you and maybe it’s been bothering him deep down.
He wants his child to be more like him, less like you (in terms of education), so he wants to be in charge of that because it’s worrying him.
Do you both have different up bringings and backgrounds? Also is your partner autistic at all?
Have you ever hinted at homeschooling or anything else that he has disagreed with in the past?
I’m just trying to figure out his weird request