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  1. u/Infamous-Size-3905, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.

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  2. I used to trauma dump because I was drowning in it and didn't know how to communicate otherwise.

    A good friend sat me down and explained that ” how are you” really is a greeting. It's a steering greeting that establishes the tone of the conversation.

    Neutral responses of “fine” or “good” lets the conversation continue, nothing of big note to share.

    Happy responses of “great” or “amazing” prompt that you're sharing happy news or information

    Negative responses of, “not good” “could be better” or “terrible” prompt that you're seeking help with a problem, or there is a concern you're telling them about.

    Changing the tone can dominates the conversation, and using negative tones doesn't leave room to discuss happy things.

    She then asked me how I'd feel if one of my friends only talked to me about negative things. Then I realized how tiring that would be and how sad I would be, and how I'd be concerned about talking about anything happy with them.

    Now I'm more mindful of who I tell these things too. Keeping it to when I need help, or who I know needs awareness or can help. I also try to make sure my next conversation is positive with them.

    I think a sincere and mindful discussion saved so many of my relationships. I hope you can give your SO the same and that they listen.

  3. Report him and her to their company and get them both fired. File for alimony.

    Why? I say move on and learn. Vindictiveness is a toxic trait.

  4. Alright, so you geek out about your interests. But here, in a topic you weren't invested in terribly, you still managed to shove your ego into the situation.

    So then, I go back to this assertion above:

    A lot of people who are book smart or otherwise intellectual fall into this trap – you assume that because you study things and know lots about them, that you are generally studious and knowledgable.

    You're probably not doing it consciously, but it's very common for people with deep knowledge of their interests to assume that their ability to know lots about one thing translates to knowing a basic amount of everything – that because you know things, you should rightly be able to know just about anything.

  5. You have your solution you just donā€™t want to go through with it, move tf out! If your step dad is useless maybe your mom will actually see that when itā€™s his turn to pull his weight.

    Your momā€™s issues arenā€™t your issues, your a full-grown adult who can spend their own money however they want. The ONLY way the nagging stops is by getting your own place.

  6. You are feeling disrespected and betrayed because that is what he did. He can claim, ā€œI didnā€™t act on the it physically, so I didnā€™t do anything wrongā€, but he was wrong. He had a relationship and emotional affair. Itā€™s still 100% cheating. Honestly, personally, a solely physical affair is awful and painful, but I think and emotional one is worse. He built an emotional bond with someone which is one he should only have with you.

    If you decide to try and work it out, as a startā€¦ he needs to find a new job and go NC completely with his AP. He needs to provide unfettered access to his phone and whereabouts. Also, you should seek counseling.

    So, you need to decide if you can get past it to trust him again. Or do you believe you will always be wondering with every thing he does is he cheating againā€¦. Who is he texting, where is he going, who will be there?

    Iā€™m sorry this happened to you.

  7. Absolutely what the above poster said. He needs to make it clear he's in a relationship, that should at least kill some of their interest and just be aware he doesn't start flirting back without noticing it. Given he's saying he's aware, he probably is so has no excuse and likely won't I guess.

    I would also have been thrown by this before, but I am now in a relationship with a guy where girls who are into him, and have taking him being nice and interested in them as some sort of entitlement to his attention, and therefore have issues with me for 0 reason since meeting me. They are all in their own relationships so shouldn't be doing this at all, and it's been a nightmare. I reckon he's maybe gone through something like this with an ex, and is explaining early on so as to not cause you worries later.

    My bf was not aware this is what was happening, until they started being nightmares towards me. Female friends literally hanging on his arm telling him not to go home with me, I could look after myself and to stay out with them and keep drinking… like begging him not to go home with his gf and not letting him go. This was the first thing that happened that weirded me out. Then one telling me not to trust him and he was a narcissist when she was drunk, but then kept on flirting with him when i was there (found out she slept with him 10 years ago and he rejected anything serious with her for another girl, and she's never gotten over it.) 3 years later, one girl still hasn't said a word to me. Literally not a single word, just rolled her eyes and walked away when I tried to talk to her. I've never experienced anything like it in my whole life… it's been a total nightmare and none of my friends or any exes have ever been like this. But their group is a bit nuts in general.

    Unfortunately he's actually there for the guys and not the girls, who are in relationships with his guy friends, so there's no getting rid of them and being mean or ignoring them doesn't get him anywhere. But he's now hyper aware of it and puts down any shit before it escalates.

    Him having known this, told me before and made it clear we were a team from the start would have felt mental, but honestly have saved so much worrying. Because he straight up didn't believe me that I could tell something was up… until about 6 months ago when one of the girls grassed literally all of the others ones up for what they were saying or doing. And he just lost his shit at them finally. Like his friend who is perfectly sociable, has her own friends and talks to everyone hasn't spoken to me in 3 years… and he was giving me “aw she's just like that.” Yeah just like that with me and nobody else. Fs

    All that being said, if he really has all these girls on him good luck. Because I've never found anything so draining as having to deal with this for the last 3 years, and I'm glad they are finally calming down and stopping it after all this time. At least your guy is aware of it and that might spare you some of the issues I've seen.

  8. Girl no. Just no. You canā€™t marry this guy. Heā€™s not interested in the relationship. Heā€™s sure as heck not interested in you. Youā€™re doing all the work because he absolutely does not want to marry you. Hand back the ring if he even got you one and tell him that youā€™re exhausted and walking away. You have nothing more to invest. He is a bad investment. You lost out on 15 years of your life chasing a man who never prioritised you. He treats you poorly because you let him. Therapy for yourself and being completely open and honest with your therapist about your anxious attachment to this man. You canā€™t save someone who doesnā€™t want to be saved. Save yourself and get out.

  9. Certain places aren't off limits because you don't want random people to sleep on your shoulder. He should just tell the girl to move her head when his girlfriend asked him to do so.

    Would i have a problem with a random girl sleeping on my shoulder? Probably not

    Would i respect my girlfriends request to move a random girl from my shoulder? Absolutely, and i would tell her the same if the roles were reversed

  10. Why were you as a 32 year old man in a relationship spending a large amount of time with a 24 year old presumably single woman during a pandemic? What hobbies and interests do you both share to illicit the need for so much time spent together? I'd be uncomfortable too.

  11. I do too, it's stimulating I get more then enough foreplay so that there's very little risk of it hurting when we do, do it. I'm also almost full term pregnancy so sex can be a lot more painful then it used to but I still feel sexually wanted and desired and so does he plus it makes the sex way more passionate when we have it because we've been building it up, aswell as making it easier for me to finish during because as most people know women tend to have a harder time finishing before their male partner and biologically/scientifically speaking most men actually do get sleepy after finishing whereas women are more hyper. Plus with it being a no pressure to lead to sex as there's no expectation we can just enjoy the foreplay and appreciate it way more. There's only upsides when done right we didn't really fully discuss it, I mean we discussed that at one point I didn't feel sexually desireable because of the lack of any sexual intimacy between us and then it became something we like somewhat fell into/with a bit of communication and it's worked since.

  12. What did you all discuss about her bisexuality before you married.

    Please tell me you discussed this before you married.

  13. I have and originally it was “I can't help being sick.” Then it was “I'm sorry I'll try harder.” I've only seen him 3 times since then which were all fine until today. Now it's “I got carried away with drinking because I hadn't seen those friends in years, I couldn't help it.”

  14. I will say giving the silent treatment to someone does seem to work in getting them to change although it is kinda toxic so I only recommend doing it to people who are also being toxic …

  15. The only way to know if your boyfriend has a virginity fetish, is trying to tell you that he's ready for sex, or both is telling him and seeing his reaction.

  16. Could you sleep separated from him? Even if itā€™s on a couch for a night or two might help your nerves

  17. If it looks like a creep, and it quacks like a creep… Imagine if she actually was a virgin and married this dude. A life of misery.

  18. fuck. you're right. I do have to rip the band-aid off. but now the timing is weird.

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    her birthday is tomorrow, so I don't want to ask now..I still want to call her and wish her a happy birthday…and then maybe invite her out for coffee? or ask on text a few days later?

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    When we were talking a few months back she had asked me what my feelings are towards dating (in general) and I felt uncomfortable. So I said we can talk about that in person.

  19. I find it strange that she's unwilling to have sex with you. Intimacy in relationships is important. Are you intimate in other ways?

  20. Why bother convincing him? Just leave. He's a TERRIBLE bet for a long term partner. You're PERFECT for him bc he can just stay terrible with money and you'll take up his slack. He's terrible for you bc he will upend all your plans and desires and put you in permanent debt. RUN, before he ropes you into his debt.

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