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I didn’t complement my girl the first 3 months of us dating. She was very very upset over it the entire time and has brought it up to me many times how insecure it makes her and if I’m attracted to her..
Being from that perspective let me tell you, he finds you attractive as fuck, he doesn’t want to boost your ego because you should know how attractive you are. I understand you want to hear it from him, but that’s not how men think. Yes he should say things to help you be happy, he’s being forgetful and dumb
It means there's fuck all chance you guys stay together long term. I've felt deeply for a few girls and with all of them, I loved the idea of not just being their boyfriend, but their friend too. Speaking only from my experience, I don't think you can really be in love with someone unless you have that desire for tight knit friendship with them
Ok so I definitely believe that it is healthy for couples to engage in activities separately but with this situation boundaries are being crossed imo. I believe that couples should be able to openly talk to one another about things that are bothering them with the hope that these things can be resolved. I think that so long as expectations aren’t unreasonable I think that’s ok.
I am a gamer myself and I get playing a long time bc I am guilty of that as well. What I don’t get and what would make me feel uncomfortable is the flirting and this girl being upset about not being the center of attention…that screams red flag to me. What also screams red flag is your partner’s refusal to listen to your concerns and try to see things from your perspective
Everyone wants nonstop sex until they actually get it and realize that it is physically emotionally and mentally demanding in a way they were not prepared for. It’s not that different from someone claiming there so kinky, wanting to be spanked her choked but panic and get mad when it actually happens.
The best advice I’ve ever been given when it comes to high sex drive that no one person can keep up with , get a second person. And I’m not talking about cheating I’m talking about an open and or polyamorous relationship no lying no sneaking around!
Just leave. She didn't push him away let's be honest. You were never going to know this happened otherwise and certainly explains her I love you text she sent. She's taking you for a ride dude.
I’m not gonna lie to you, physical attraction and sex are extremely important to me in a relationship because that’s something you can’t get anywhere else.
That said, the choice is entirely up to you. Do you feel like it’s important to you, or do you think that you don’t care what someone looks like if only they “check all the emotional boxes”? Either way, both feelings are valid and you are not shallow for feeling whatever way you feel. Just make sure that however you decide to proceed, it’s because you are genuinely interested in what a relationship with him would be like and if maybe you can grow to be physically attracted to him, NOT because you feel bad for him/because you’re bored/because you’re being pressured by anyone
In the bigger picture it is a rebound if you talk to pictures obsessing over someone while your new gf is there. I don’t know how she does it. I would be long gone personally.
She struggles with anxiety and didn’t feel welcome coming to my house with my mum and step dad as they started picking up on little things she did, such as one day when no one was in sight when she came in the door, not saying hello. This led to her becoming very anxious about coming to my house and preferring we spent time at her house.
Sorry, this is a bit confusing to me. What was the GF anxious about?
I would be a bit surprised that she read all that stuff I wrote but wouldn't be bothered by it. If you write on a public forum you have to asume that a lot of people read it and that this includes people who know your nick and will comment on your posts.
You set yourself up for this. You constantly needing something new in the bedroom, pushed him right out the door to find someone who wants him. Someone who cares about him enough to not go banging other dudes. The minute you asked a married monogamous man to open up a relationship was the moment he realized you probably weren’t the one for him. He’s been waiting for someone special to come around who will love him for who he is in/out of the bedroom and I think he found it. Power to him honestly. Don’t get married and then proceed to ask to open up a relationship. If that’s something you really want, it should have been discussed before.
This is the right answer here. Why she thinks you can adopt them when he hasn’t relinquished his parental rights is beyond my comprehension. Also the other kids dad died. Your step kids father is still alive. The step kids might not realize that their dad isn’t replacing them, just giving his step kids something that his bio kids already have. With time, they may forgive him. But if you try to adopt them (and BTW, do they even want to be adopted by you?), he will either say yes, which they will resent (as it would say to them that he is abandoning them and doesn’t care anymore), or say no, which may make your wife and her kids resent him for “denying” their (really your wife’s) wishes. Either way, it’s a powder keg ready to blow….
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I see- thanks, as a follow up, is it only when they do it for profit or personal gain that it is a problem? Or is it just the idea that someone wants to identify with a race they aren't? If a cosplayer actually monetised their cosplay, but they aren't japanese and the character is, could that be problematic too? Was it okay when Elvis and Eminem did it for their music careers? Or was that also a problem, but before people felt comfortable speaking up about it, and shutting it down?
He ain't changing. You need to decide how important this is to you. If you can deal with it as is great, if not well…. here we are, short term it ain't getting better.
One thing you may try is have him pay for a cleaning service once a week for a weekly cleaning as his contribution
I am “loving” the phrase “sober enough to drive.” Isn't that an oxymoron? No one in my opinion who has been drinking should drive…but I digress…
I don't think that OP has any right to feel betrayed or angry about this girl's actions. They are simply conversing. Nothing else. ( see my other comments).
Your girlfriend has a “plan of action” and she started implementing it almost on the day you moved in together when she stopped taking her birth control pills. That is no coincidence my friend. Worry and anxiety over pregnancy should not be a part of a fulfilling relationship. I think you know what you need to do {find a new girlfriend) – just do it before its too late. Her life goals are not compatible with your life goals.
Quit wasting your life and your time with this nasty abusive man. You’re 23! You have a whole long beautiful life ahead of you, but not with him. Start packing your shit, get things in order. Then one day when he’s not there, or honestly even when he’s asleep, you leave, you go back to your family and take the dogs too. Please do this. You DO have the strength. You know this is wrong and that you’re being abused.
Even just do it when he’s sleeping, seriously. Leave and never look back. It’ll be very hot for the first months or even a year, to start over, but it’s soooo much better than this.
This is a difficult one. There are boyfriends who do this. But there definitely also are jealous sisters who lie about this try to sabotage a relationship because they are jealous.
Is your sister typically jealous and used to being the centre of attention? Does she have the habit of giving you remarks that make you feel insecure?
What's weird about her story is that she claims your boyfriend said that he is just with you to get access to her. He has been with you for 2 years.. that's a very long time for this story to be plausible, to be honest.
Do you know why you aren't feeling the sense of betrayal a normal person would feel here? Do you know why you'd keep a friend who has such little respect for you and concern for your well being? Is it something from your upbringing?
yes but it's very hot because sometimes is really naked actually, his schedule and work and being tired makes it complicated sometimes. I talked with him about it but sometimes is harder for him to give me that, that's why I asked for the advice:(
But you'll get almost nothing for a 2018 xbox compared to whatever money problems you're having. It's 5 year old tech! The literal “money” value of it isn't the same as the exchange value you're getting. Or am I wrong about this? Can you get more than $100 for it?
She's probably upset because it was a gift. Let it be for a few days and bring it up again, but try to reassure her you valued and still value the gift. She gave it to you so you could have fun, and in its final act, the xbox can continue to allow you to do that, so that you don't need to spend any actual dollars on your hobby for a while.
After everything, he really thinks I'd go behind his back like that?
Of course he thinks that. It's rational for him to think that.
Listen… you devastated your husband's ego structure. He likely thinks that you're not at all interested in him because of the affair. Which is also obvious.
You can try to “make things up” to him, but that's not something you really make up. It's just there in the background forever for some people.
So stop thinking he's like you and let him be like himself. He's destroyed. May always be destroyed. Even if you divorced and he found someone else he may never believe he's enough.
Mostly. Lingerie but also he's into stuff like rope, wants me to wear stockings, etc.
I guess it just feels unfair that he wouldn't question where these preferences come from. And so, he doesn't consider objectification being commonplace, and that feels unfair to me.
For me, I think he's very hot and while, yes I do prefer any partner maintains good hygiene, there's nothing like that that I want from him. E.g., I'm not like, damn I love when men wear tight shirts. That just feels strange to me. So it's a bit upsetting that it feels like I'm not interesting enough as is. Again, it feels like he wants these things because of ingrained expectations. Women wear things to look more fuckable whereas men normally don't wear anything specific like that.
It's very hot to explain, but I'm thinking about it! If it's ingrained for him, it's ingrained in me to be wary of these things, so I am trying to separate myself from my biases.
Stop using your stupid love language as an excuse to be a dick. Six weeks after she blasted a human out of her vagina, you are hassling her for sex. Let me put it this way, if you squeezed an 8 pound creature out of your ass, would you want someone's dick in it a month and a half later? I'm guessing since your “only love language” is physical touch that you've been hounding on your exhausted, postpartum wife constantly while not doing anything nice for her that doesn't involve expecting sex in return and humping her leg. I'm also wondering how much are you doing with the baby and around the house to make her feel less ragged. Honestly, I am a sex positive person and believe it's important in a relationship but your whiny post would turn me off it for a very long time.
I mean, I do think it’s a little weird that you slept in the same bed as your brother when there were other options (the couch) available. Am I the only one?
I agree he needs to talk about this when they're both sober, but calling guys “slang for vagina = weak” is gross, man. Vaginas are strong af, you and everyone else had to pass through one to be here. Women aren't weak/dumb/bad, and we should really stop using that comparison as an insult towards men.
it’s weird to bring her up every few days, and that he got so angry that you were sad. My partner has never talked about his ex other than telling me he had been cheated on, or tells me stories about his teen years but unless his ex adds context to the story he doesn’t mention her. I never asked him, he’s been that way since I met him. I had a moment of insecurity a couple years ago and asked him if he wished they never broke up. He said he’s glad for anything that happened before we met otherwise he might be still living life without me and that was the worst thing he could imagine. You do need to deal with your insecurities on your own, it’s not fair to project them onto your partner. But he seems like an asshole and his actions make you feel insecure. Does this relationship add value to your life? You don’t have to be with someone who makes you feel this way
As someone who dated someone who sold drugs, You would be surprised how many friends tattle when they get busted with drugs on them and they are asked to snitch out who sold it to them. It’s not safe I’m sorry, please draw the boundaries you need.
She's feeling bad, you can help her feel worse and say, damn and he still didn't want you around. I'm sorry. Or you can be the one that doesn't give a fuck. You know what you have and she's trying to knock you down because she feels you're better than her, you have what she loves or thinks she does. Or, and Idk nothing about this, but revenge porn laws might be something. I'm not that person unless I'm actually harmed and not hurt feelings. So, it's something to look into if you are, and it's not wrong to be, maybe look into that, otherwise, block her, don't dwell. When the picture pops in your mind, think of parrots or how many people will it take before this out-of-control human population starts starving and eating each other? You know, anything not romantic. If you can't, you may have to do what's best for you and leave the situation entirely, only you can know that.
She can tell her friends that she made a mistake, and that she wants them to pay her for the drinks because she took that money without your consent and she feels bad because of it(she should).
If she doesn't pay you back, or if she can't ask that money back from her friends, that means she is an adult only in age and you should stay away from her. She made a mistake and it was her first time doing that mistake(I hope), that part is understandable. How she acts now, after the mistake now this part tells a lot more than the mistake part. She ignores you? We can't have that. This situation comes first, and it should be handled quickly because you want that conversation with her and her friends to happen today, right now.
What I would do is; if she can't see how wrong this is even after I tell her, I would consider ending this relationship. I can't have somebody in my life you won't admit and fix their mistakes.
You were only sleeping together but he was jealous and you were head over heels for him?
Was he sleeping with anyone else? Because your answer lies in the answer to that.
I find it incredibly suspicious you seem to have hidden the fact that you were sleeping with others and even said in your post this was the part you were scared about telling him.
Seems like you know exactly the sort of relationship you two were in but only you didn't want to be exclusive, and then you didn't tell him (if he thought you were exclusive, this is called “cheating on him for 4 years”). But once again, if he was also sleeping around then he is deeply hypocritical and doesn't have the right to get angry here.
If the answer to the above is as I expect, I don't think you'll be open about it on a public forum like Reddit. So, in advance, my advice is to ponder on and try to understand how you hurt him and come to terms with the fact that what you did was hugely betraying and mean.
If he's just a hypocrite, break up with him because he has no right to shame you for activities he also participated in at the time.
But he accepted his intentions were wrong. I'm okay with him having female friends but he SAVED their pics and they're not like any celebrities. It's girls from his college and office. How can I trust him now?
Can't comment further as if they are two consenting adults of that age and being safe and reasonably considerate I wouldn't have a problem. And if I did I would voice it, as that is literally the only way to begin resolving it.
How completely messed up does your childhood have to be for one to consider a relationship with THIS pompous, verbally abusive asshole “happy”, “loving” and/or “fun”?
OP, reading this makes me feel very sad for you. It sounds like you know deep down that this isn't right, but you don't want to admit it to yourself.
I can't believe that your family and friends haven't tried to talk some sense into you about this fucking asshole more than once by now, and if they haven't, then they really suck.
Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life? Being treated like this? There are plenty of men out there who will treat you with kindness, love, and respect all of the time. This asshole isn't one of them.
If you stay with him, this is how the rest of your life will go.
Please, want better for yourself – and go find it. Best of luck to you.
Basically, she wants to hook up with other people, but keep you at arms length.
She moved out to online with her friends and although some of them were mutual friends of ours, they promptly stopped speaking to me as if I’d done something wrong. Ex fiancée says she didn’t tell them anything to make them think that but I don’t even care about that.
She's either lied about something you've done, or she's already told them that she's planning on breaking up with you, as a result they see no reason to interact with you.
It just feels like she planned this and wants to on-line off her on her own and have fun now (she relied heavily on me and now that she’s in a place where she doesn’t have to pay any bills and has plenty of disposable income bc of it, she can pretty much do whatever she wants) but insists she’d like to get back together in a year or so.
It might just be that you've grown apart and she feels like she wants a new environment.
I’m a homebody with no real friends and didn’t really have a life outside of her… not in a way that she had to pay for, she still had her space and her friends and time out/alone and all that.. time that could have been me with friends is usually spent on my own because I like it that way
Now might be a good idea to have a sit and think about changing that, it might be worth pushing yourself to be more sociable, get involved in activities or hobbies. Perhaps she saw that you were reclusive in your little bubble without anything else and she thought that she might be missing out on something.
but insists she’d like to get back together in a year or so.
So this is the part where you have to be careful for two reasons:
A) She might just be saying that you let you down easy and has no intention of getting back together.
B) She's using you a back up once she's finished doing whatever, wherever and with whoever. It really should be that she's gone and stays gone, she can't just monkey branch her way back to your support afterward.
Just move on, re-evaluate things and don't splurge $3k on a puppy in an last ditch effort to win her back.
I didn’t complement my girl the first 3 months of us dating. She was very very upset over it the entire time and has brought it up to me many times how insecure it makes her and if I’m attracted to her..
Being from that perspective let me tell you, he finds you attractive as fuck, he doesn’t want to boost your ego because you should know how attractive you are. I understand you want to hear it from him, but that’s not how men think. Yes he should say things to help you be happy, he’s being forgetful and dumb
It means there's fuck all chance you guys stay together long term. I've felt deeply for a few girls and with all of them, I loved the idea of not just being their boyfriend, but their friend too. Speaking only from my experience, I don't think you can really be in love with someone unless you have that desire for tight knit friendship with them
I don’t know. I wish I knew. He says they don’t .
Ok so I definitely believe that it is healthy for couples to engage in activities separately but with this situation boundaries are being crossed imo. I believe that couples should be able to openly talk to one another about things that are bothering them with the hope that these things can be resolved. I think that so long as expectations aren’t unreasonable I think that’s ok.
I am a gamer myself and I get playing a long time bc I am guilty of that as well. What I don’t get and what would make me feel uncomfortable is the flirting and this girl being upset about not being the center of attention…that screams red flag to me. What also screams red flag is your partner’s refusal to listen to your concerns and try to see things from your perspective
Qualifications: i am a woman lol
This reads like ragebait lol
Everyone wants nonstop sex until they actually get it and realize that it is physically emotionally and mentally demanding in a way they were not prepared for. It’s not that different from someone claiming there so kinky, wanting to be spanked her choked but panic and get mad when it actually happens.
The best advice I’ve ever been given when it comes to high sex drive that no one person can keep up with , get a second person. And I’m not talking about cheating I’m talking about an open and or polyamorous relationship no lying no sneaking around!
Just leave. She didn't push him away let's be honest. You were never going to know this happened otherwise and certainly explains her I love you text she sent. She's taking you for a ride dude.
I’m not gonna lie to you, physical attraction and sex are extremely important to me in a relationship because that’s something you can’t get anywhere else.
That said, the choice is entirely up to you. Do you feel like it’s important to you, or do you think that you don’t care what someone looks like if only they “check all the emotional boxes”? Either way, both feelings are valid and you are not shallow for feeling whatever way you feel. Just make sure that however you decide to proceed, it’s because you are genuinely interested in what a relationship with him would be like and if maybe you can grow to be physically attracted to him, NOT because you feel bad for him/because you’re bored/because you’re being pressured by anyone
In the bigger picture it is a rebound if you talk to pictures obsessing over someone while your new gf is there. I don’t know how she does it. I would be long gone personally.
She struggles with anxiety and didn’t feel welcome coming to my house with my mum and step dad as they started picking up on little things she did, such as one day when no one was in sight when she came in the door, not saying hello. This led to her becoming very anxious about coming to my house and preferring we spent time at her house.
Sorry, this is a bit confusing to me. What was the GF anxious about?
I would be a bit surprised that she read all that stuff I wrote but wouldn't be bothered by it. If you write on a public forum you have to asume that a lot of people read it and that this includes people who know your nick and will comment on your posts.
The only friends i have here so far are his friends/partners of his friends so not really
You set yourself up for this. You constantly needing something new in the bedroom, pushed him right out the door to find someone who wants him. Someone who cares about him enough to not go banging other dudes. The minute you asked a married monogamous man to open up a relationship was the moment he realized you probably weren’t the one for him. He’s been waiting for someone special to come around who will love him for who he is in/out of the bedroom and I think he found it. Power to him honestly. Don’t get married and then proceed to ask to open up a relationship. If that’s something you really want, it should have been discussed before.
This is the right answer here. Why she thinks you can adopt them when he hasn’t relinquished his parental rights is beyond my comprehension. Also the other kids dad died. Your step kids father is still alive. The step kids might not realize that their dad isn’t replacing them, just giving his step kids something that his bio kids already have. With time, they may forgive him. But if you try to adopt them (and BTW, do they even want to be adopted by you?), he will either say yes, which they will resent (as it would say to them that he is abandoning them and doesn’t care anymore), or say no, which may make your wife and her kids resent him for “denying” their (really your wife’s) wishes. Either way, it’s a powder keg ready to blow….
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I see- thanks, as a follow up, is it only when they do it for profit or personal gain that it is a problem? Or is it just the idea that someone wants to identify with a race they aren't? If a cosplayer actually monetised their cosplay, but they aren't japanese and the character is, could that be problematic too? Was it okay when Elvis and Eminem did it for their music careers? Or was that also a problem, but before people felt comfortable speaking up about it, and shutting it down?
yeah i think this confirms that you should get some therapy or help to become more confident and less insecure before trying to date again
He ain't changing. You need to decide how important this is to you. If you can deal with it as is great, if not well…. here we are, short term it ain't getting better.
One thing you may try is have him pay for a cleaning service once a week for a weekly cleaning as his contribution
I am “loving” the phrase “sober enough to drive.” Isn't that an oxymoron? No one in my opinion who has been drinking should drive…but I digress…
I don't think that OP has any right to feel betrayed or angry about this girl's actions. They are simply conversing. Nothing else. ( see my other comments).
He punched you in the head.
Not only could he have killed you. He also taught your son it’s okay to hit a woman if she upsets you.
You mean HE can’t go.
Just go with-out him and stand your ground on it don’t let him talk you out of it.
Go enjoy your vacation that you worked so very hot on to plan don’t let him ruin it for you.
You need to be active on reddit to get karma. You've had your account for 2 years and 4 months but not written that many comments.
I don't know of any other way to get karma or if there even is another way. Hopefully someone can clarify.
Lol do you with for the government? Bc that was a lot of words that didn't say a damn thing.
Your girlfriend has a “plan of action” and she started implementing it almost on the day you moved in together when she stopped taking her birth control pills. That is no coincidence my friend. Worry and anxiety over pregnancy should not be a part of a fulfilling relationship. I think you know what you need to do {find a new girlfriend) – just do it before its too late. Her life goals are not compatible with your life goals.
Quit wasting your life and your time with this nasty abusive man. You’re 23! You have a whole long beautiful life ahead of you, but not with him. Start packing your shit, get things in order. Then one day when he’s not there, or honestly even when he’s asleep, you leave, you go back to your family and take the dogs too. Please do this. You DO have the strength. You know this is wrong and that you’re being abused.
Even just do it when he’s sleeping, seriously. Leave and never look back. It’ll be very hot for the first months or even a year, to start over, but it’s soooo much better than this.
This is a difficult one. There are boyfriends who do this. But there definitely also are jealous sisters who lie about this try to sabotage a relationship because they are jealous.
Is your sister typically jealous and used to being the centre of attention? Does she have the habit of giving you remarks that make you feel insecure?
What's weird about her story is that she claims your boyfriend said that he is just with you to get access to her. He has been with you for 2 years.. that's a very long time for this story to be plausible, to be honest.
The man got one and this is the result. She will do nothing with one.
Someone else mentioned that he might be unraveling the entire condom, then using the lotion to slip it on. I'd bet money that this is the case lol.
That guy is not your friend.
Do you know why you aren't feeling the sense of betrayal a normal person would feel here? Do you know why you'd keep a friend who has such little respect for you and concern for your well being? Is it something from your upbringing?
Eye rolling is a disrespectful nonverbal passive aggressive gesture. It conveys “you’re crazy” IMHO
yes but it's very hot because sometimes is really naked actually, his schedule and work and being tired makes it complicated sometimes. I talked with him about it but sometimes is harder for him to give me that, that's why I asked for the advice:(
ahhhhh soooooo many red flags.. he’s not being 100 with you at all
But you'll get almost nothing for a 2018 xbox compared to whatever money problems you're having. It's 5 year old tech! The literal “money” value of it isn't the same as the exchange value you're getting. Or am I wrong about this? Can you get more than $100 for it?
She's probably upset because it was a gift. Let it be for a few days and bring it up again, but try to reassure her you valued and still value the gift. She gave it to you so you could have fun, and in its final act, the xbox can continue to allow you to do that, so that you don't need to spend any actual dollars on your hobby for a while.
Nothing you can do
Being close to this guys age, I can tell you i see so many people so desperate to be in a relationship, who are single again in middle age
They take the first person that comes along and put up with all sorts
They just MUST have a partner
I have friends like your mom and it's like talking to a brick wall I'm afraid
Jumping into relationships with people that are either obnoxious or as dull as dishwater
They are love blind as much as any foolish teen and act like they are that age again
You'll have to just stand back and watch the bonfire I'm afraid, then when everything falls to bits
“How could they do this to me…” well durr………
I found someone on fb Marketplace selling a much upgraded version of something within my hobby?
After everything, he really thinks I'd go behind his back like that?
Of course he thinks that. It's rational for him to think that.
Listen… you devastated your husband's ego structure. He likely thinks that you're not at all interested in him because of the affair. Which is also obvious.
You can try to “make things up” to him, but that's not something you really make up. It's just there in the background forever for some people.
So stop thinking he's like you and let him be like himself. He's destroyed. May always be destroyed. Even if you divorced and he found someone else he may never believe he's enough.
That's my guess what's happening here.
Thank you for your thoughtful response. I really want to believe that he isn't lying to me. And I don't know how to be absolutely sure.
Mostly. Lingerie but also he's into stuff like rope, wants me to wear stockings, etc.
I guess it just feels unfair that he wouldn't question where these preferences come from. And so, he doesn't consider objectification being commonplace, and that feels unfair to me.
For me, I think he's very hot and while, yes I do prefer any partner maintains good hygiene, there's nothing like that that I want from him. E.g., I'm not like, damn I love when men wear tight shirts. That just feels strange to me. So it's a bit upsetting that it feels like I'm not interesting enough as is. Again, it feels like he wants these things because of ingrained expectations. Women wear things to look more fuckable whereas men normally don't wear anything specific like that.
It's very hot to explain, but I'm thinking about it! If it's ingrained for him, it's ingrained in me to be wary of these things, so I am trying to separate myself from my biases.
Remindme!
Stop using your stupid love language as an excuse to be a dick. Six weeks after she blasted a human out of her vagina, you are hassling her for sex. Let me put it this way, if you squeezed an 8 pound creature out of your ass, would you want someone's dick in it a month and a half later? I'm guessing since your “only love language” is physical touch that you've been hounding on your exhausted, postpartum wife constantly while not doing anything nice for her that doesn't involve expecting sex in return and humping her leg. I'm also wondering how much are you doing with the baby and around the house to make her feel less ragged. Honestly, I am a sex positive person and believe it's important in a relationship but your whiny post would turn me off it for a very long time.
Definitely not
I mean, I do think it’s a little weird that you slept in the same bed as your brother when there were other options (the couch) available. Am I the only one?
?great men don’t rape their wives!!?
“Suck it up princess! Men don’t have feelings! Happy wife happy life.”
I agree he needs to talk about this when they're both sober, but calling guys “slang for vagina = weak” is gross, man. Vaginas are strong af, you and everyone else had to pass through one to be here. Women aren't weak/dumb/bad, and we should really stop using that comparison as an insult towards men.
You need to talk to her and let her know what she said.
If things don't go well, then at least it allows for both of you to sort out your individual feelings and step away if needed.
It's called informed consent. Key word informed.
Dude, a girl telling you that she dreamed about you is a low key signal.
it’s weird to bring her up every few days, and that he got so angry that you were sad. My partner has never talked about his ex other than telling me he had been cheated on, or tells me stories about his teen years but unless his ex adds context to the story he doesn’t mention her. I never asked him, he’s been that way since I met him. I had a moment of insecurity a couple years ago and asked him if he wished they never broke up. He said he’s glad for anything that happened before we met otherwise he might be still living life without me and that was the worst thing he could imagine. You do need to deal with your insecurities on your own, it’s not fair to project them onto your partner. But he seems like an asshole and his actions make you feel insecure. Does this relationship add value to your life? You don’t have to be with someone who makes you feel this way
As someone who dated someone who sold drugs, You would be surprised how many friends tattle when they get busted with drugs on them and they are asked to snitch out who sold it to them. It’s not safe I’m sorry, please draw the boundaries you need.
The problem you have is. Why now? 10 years you, as well as he have betrayed this woman. So why now? The point I'm making is , is it for you or her?
She deserves to know.
Take the car to the police station!
She's feeling bad, you can help her feel worse and say, damn and he still didn't want you around. I'm sorry. Or you can be the one that doesn't give a fuck. You know what you have and she's trying to knock you down because she feels you're better than her, you have what she loves or thinks she does. Or, and Idk nothing about this, but revenge porn laws might be something. I'm not that person unless I'm actually harmed and not hurt feelings. So, it's something to look into if you are, and it's not wrong to be, maybe look into that, otherwise, block her, don't dwell. When the picture pops in your mind, think of parrots or how many people will it take before this out-of-control human population starts starving and eating each other? You know, anything not romantic. If you can't, you may have to do what's best for you and leave the situation entirely, only you can know that.
She can tell her friends that she made a mistake, and that she wants them to pay her for the drinks because she took that money without your consent and she feels bad because of it(she should).
If she doesn't pay you back, or if she can't ask that money back from her friends, that means she is an adult only in age and you should stay away from her. She made a mistake and it was her first time doing that mistake(I hope), that part is understandable. How she acts now, after the mistake now this part tells a lot more than the mistake part. She ignores you? We can't have that. This situation comes first, and it should be handled quickly because you want that conversation with her and her friends to happen today, right now.
What I would do is; if she can't see how wrong this is even after I tell her, I would consider ending this relationship. I can't have somebody in my life you won't admit and fix their mistakes.
Men understand not wanting to talk about stuff. Just give him a big hug, saw you know about last week but you don't want to talk about it.
I lost him at black cat to his golden retriever energy, wtf is that. She probably got overwhelmed.
You were only sleeping together but he was jealous and you were head over heels for him?
Was he sleeping with anyone else? Because your answer lies in the answer to that.
I find it incredibly suspicious you seem to have hidden the fact that you were sleeping with others and even said in your post this was the part you were scared about telling him.
Seems like you know exactly the sort of relationship you two were in but only you didn't want to be exclusive, and then you didn't tell him (if he thought you were exclusive, this is called “cheating on him for 4 years”). But once again, if he was also sleeping around then he is deeply hypocritical and doesn't have the right to get angry here.
If the answer to the above is as I expect, I don't think you'll be open about it on a public forum like Reddit. So, in advance, my advice is to ponder on and try to understand how you hurt him and come to terms with the fact that what you did was hugely betraying and mean.
If he's just a hypocrite, break up with him because he has no right to shame you for activities he also participated in at the time.
But he accepted his intentions were wrong. I'm okay with him having female friends but he SAVED their pics and they're not like any celebrities. It's girls from his college and office. How can I trust him now?
Can't comment further as if they are two consenting adults of that age and being safe and reasonably considerate I wouldn't have a problem. And if I did I would voice it, as that is literally the only way to begin resolving it.
How completely messed up does your childhood have to be for one to consider a relationship with THIS pompous, verbally abusive asshole “happy”, “loving” and/or “fun”?
OP, reading this makes me feel very sad for you. It sounds like you know deep down that this isn't right, but you don't want to admit it to yourself.
I can't believe that your family and friends haven't tried to talk some sense into you about this fucking asshole more than once by now, and if they haven't, then they really suck.
Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life? Being treated like this? There are plenty of men out there who will treat you with kindness, love, and respect all of the time. This asshole isn't one of them.
If you stay with him, this is how the rest of your life will go.
Please, want better for yourself – and go find it. Best of luck to you.
Basically, she wants to hook up with other people, but keep you at arms length.
She moved out to online with her friends and although some of them were mutual friends of ours, they promptly stopped speaking to me as if I’d done something wrong. Ex fiancée says she didn’t tell them anything to make them think that but I don’t even care about that.
She's either lied about something you've done, or she's already told them that she's planning on breaking up with you, as a result they see no reason to interact with you.
It just feels like she planned this and wants to on-line off her on her own and have fun now (she relied heavily on me and now that she’s in a place where she doesn’t have to pay any bills and has plenty of disposable income bc of it, she can pretty much do whatever she wants) but insists she’d like to get back together in a year or so.
It might just be that you've grown apart and she feels like she wants a new environment.
I’m a homebody with no real friends and didn’t really have a life outside of her… not in a way that she had to pay for, she still had her space and her friends and time out/alone and all that.. time that could have been me with friends is usually spent on my own because I like it that way
Now might be a good idea to have a sit and think about changing that, it might be worth pushing yourself to be more sociable, get involved in activities or hobbies. Perhaps she saw that you were reclusive in your little bubble without anything else and she thought that she might be missing out on something.
but insists she’d like to get back together in a year or so.
So this is the part where you have to be careful for two reasons:
A) She might just be saying that you let you down easy and has no intention of getting back together.
B) She's using you a back up once she's finished doing whatever, wherever and with whoever. It really should be that she's gone and stays gone, she can't just monkey branch her way back to your support afterward.
Just move on, re-evaluate things and don't splurge $3k on a puppy in an last ditch effort to win her back.