Well you come clean. You do not trickle truth, you do not blameshift, you accept full responsibility for your choices and when he decides to divorce you, you give him the most smooth divorce ever and then you both move on.
If he decides to grant you the gift of reconciliation, you take a lot of time in Individual therapy and find out why you decided to sh*t over your entire relationship and marriage. You give him time and space to process his emotions and do not push and cajole or force your agenda. Then maybe you can enter into Marriage/Couple's coincilling and you support him in what ever he needs to heal over this betrayal.
Why the fuck should she be the only adult in this situation? Why should she have to sit them down to have a 'conversation' about basic respect? OP was the wronged party. It is not on her to fix the situation. She made her feelings clear when she repeatedly pleaded with them to leave her in peace. There was no need for her to clarify herself further. If they wanted a 'conversation' they should be the ones to reach out with an apology. Why the fuck are you making it THE VICTIM'S RESPONSIBILITY to fix this? Jesus Christ
Bullied children have serious trauma they don’t even recognize. He’s got a chip on his shoulder AND it’s WARRANTED. Bullies suck and put a tightness in someone’s stomach and spine, every school day, getting up every morning and knowing they are going to face another days taunting. He’s processing. Maybe therapy would help but really, he might not even know he’s being spiteful.
He needs to leave the house. You need to consult a lawyer.
No it’s just new and she navigating and processing it all
Well you come clean. You do not trickle truth, you do not blameshift, you accept full responsibility for your choices and when he decides to divorce you, you give him the most smooth divorce ever and then you both move on.
If he decides to grant you the gift of reconciliation, you take a lot of time in Individual therapy and find out why you decided to sh*t over your entire relationship and marriage. You give him time and space to process his emotions and do not push and cajole or force your agenda. Then maybe you can enter into Marriage/Couple's coincilling and you support him in what ever he needs to heal over this betrayal.
There may be more information for you on r/supportforwaywards or r/asoneafterinfidelity
In any case try to be a better human being going forward and learn from this.
Why the fuck should she be the only adult in this situation? Why should she have to sit them down to have a 'conversation' about basic respect? OP was the wronged party. It is not on her to fix the situation. She made her feelings clear when she repeatedly pleaded with them to leave her in peace. There was no need for her to clarify herself further. If they wanted a 'conversation' they should be the ones to reach out with an apology. Why the fuck are you making it THE VICTIM'S RESPONSIBILITY to fix this? Jesus Christ
Everyone is entitled to their opinions
you can either see past it or move on
You can't shield your future children from everything eventually they'll come across this opinion and decide whether to accept it or not
Bullied children have serious trauma they don’t even recognize. He’s got a chip on his shoulder AND it’s WARRANTED. Bullies suck and put a tightness in someone’s stomach and spine, every school day, getting up every morning and knowing they are going to face another days taunting. He’s processing. Maybe therapy would help but really, he might not even know he’s being spiteful.