Honestly I wouldn’t go partying with some opposite sex coworker at 3am, invite them back to my house that late (why didn’t she just Uber home?!), pee in an alley (so weird), I forgot about it until I saw her texting him late the other night and now I think, you know since he told me about it, it seems like poor boundaries @ both of them and she’s maybe disrespectful of the relationship but I don’t know how to broach this with him
I’m glad you are going to help yourself get over your sexualization of her friendships.
I know that men are raised to basically never connect with other humans on an emotional or comforting level until they have a girlfriend but that is some messed up toxicity.
Physical touch is bonding and not automatically sexual. And being bi doesn’t mean any of your girlfriends friend are into her. Just like you’re not into every girl you ever meet.
I hope you hug your dude friends and start breaking down these boring boundaries that just isolate people. Humans are social beings and we thrive off more hugs, more touch, more connection.
!remindme 7 days
Honestly I wouldn’t go partying with some opposite sex coworker at 3am, invite them back to my house that late (why didn’t she just Uber home?!), pee in an alley (so weird), I forgot about it until I saw her texting him late the other night and now I think, you know since he told me about it, it seems like poor boundaries @ both of them and she’s maybe disrespectful of the relationship but I don’t know how to broach this with him
I’m glad you are going to help yourself get over your sexualization of her friendships.
I know that men are raised to basically never connect with other humans on an emotional or comforting level until they have a girlfriend but that is some messed up toxicity.
Physical touch is bonding and not automatically sexual. And being bi doesn’t mean any of your girlfriends friend are into her. Just like you’re not into every girl you ever meet.
I hope you hug your dude friends and start breaking down these boring boundaries that just isolate people. Humans are social beings and we thrive off more hugs, more touch, more connection.
big chunk of his paycheck
That's for child support and is totally normal. He's got money he's got to spend some on the children he brought into the world.