Who cares what he's interested in? Make him do 50/50 custody. If he refuses, or makes your kids “suffer” (which I'm assuming just means you know he won't take care of them as well as you do, but he will take care of them) then you take him to court, get 100% custody, child support AND alimony. Don't be a victim and don't let this AH run roughshod over you. HE made his bed.
I definitely agree with the part about what she wants. Also , I don’t think setting down and having a child particularly the problem. I think setting a goal to “settle down” At certain time line is the issue. She had been single between ages 30 and 36 , plent of time to get to know someone and marry. And she hadn’t seen anyone . I don’t like the idea of commit now or I have to find someone else because I must be married before 40. It just doesn’t sound genuine to me because It feels like I am “just helping “ to her settle. Essentially, it feels like she loves the idea of being settled more than she loves me. That concerns me.
Thanks, I’ll check out the uni. I want to learn more. I’ve been listening to David Bach’s book and like it.
Wasn’t good with money as in I didn’t earn a lot and it was hot for me to save.
1) The budget right now is don’t spend on anything besides needs. I use Tiller to track expenses.
2) Yes we do, but because of my mat-leave, our expenses are higher than what we were bringing in for the last 3 months.
3) Living within our means = had some house projects come up (drainage), which set us back. Since my mat-leave we paused unnecessary spending though.
4) Yes we both contributed to retirement.
I think this current episode did instill new financial habits in me. For example, just because income goes up, spending doesn’t have to go up.
Who cares what he's interested in? Make him do 50/50 custody. If he refuses, or makes your kids “suffer” (which I'm assuming just means you know he won't take care of them as well as you do, but he will take care of them) then you take him to court, get 100% custody, child support AND alimony. Don't be a victim and don't let this AH run roughshod over you. HE made his bed.
I definitely agree with the part about what she wants. Also , I don’t think setting down and having a child particularly the problem. I think setting a goal to “settle down” At certain time line is the issue. She had been single between ages 30 and 36 , plent of time to get to know someone and marry. And she hadn’t seen anyone . I don’t like the idea of commit now or I have to find someone else because I must be married before 40. It just doesn’t sound genuine to me because It feels like I am “just helping “ to her settle. Essentially, it feels like she loves the idea of being settled more than she loves me. That concerns me.