Firstly, I don't wish to be harsh but it sounds like you both have a poor relationship with money. Maybe spending a little less would result in fewer arguments over who pays for what.
Secondly, he seems to be treating this as more of a business relationship than a romantic relationship. I've been wife my wife for 6 years, I make a lot more than her, but as far as I'm concerned what's mine is hers. To be constantly bickering over who pays what after 9 years must be exhausting.
Aside from leaving, nanny cam.
Then your bf can just see for himself.
She can still be on her parents insurance up to age 26 unless it's been changed.
Firstly, I don't wish to be harsh but it sounds like you both have a poor relationship with money. Maybe spending a little less would result in fewer arguments over who pays for what.
Secondly, he seems to be treating this as more of a business relationship than a romantic relationship. I've been wife my wife for 6 years, I make a lot more than her, but as far as I'm concerned what's mine is hers. To be constantly bickering over who pays what after 9 years must be exhausting.