Tell her it's time to reconsider the relationship and that you won't be interested in women starting to hang around, it's time for you to go on a date with a friend.
“There have been correspondences between them apart from the messages she showed you, these dialogues end with she cheated on me.”
Look into love bombing. A lot of toxic people, consciously or not, tend to enter new relationships excessively positive and quick to push the dynamic as deep as they can as quickly as possible. Then by the time that initial burst of energy wares off, the honeymoon period ends so to speak, the dynamic is deep enough and there is enough nostalgia that they can ride that as they get increasingly manipulative. I suspect you may find that resonates with your experiences with him.
Trust YOUR instincts! If you don’t want to, don’t let him use emotional manipulation to guilt you. That stuff can be saved, used, shared. Now and forever. If you aren’t long distance. Be hard in person. If that’s not good enough move on. You can do better and this is the time and age for it.
I agree she’s behaving very strangely. I asked my landlord about cutting my lease short or replacing my roommate.
They told me I can’t cut my least short, or else I’ll be fined and subject to legal action.
And my roommate cannot be evicting unless she violates the lease three times- none of her actions count as a “lease violation” so far.
Tell her it's time to reconsider the relationship and that you won't be interested in women starting to hang around, it's time for you to go on a date with a friend.
“There have been correspondences between them apart from the messages she showed you, these dialogues end with she cheated on me.”
Thankful I'm not the only one bothered by that.
Look into love bombing. A lot of toxic people, consciously or not, tend to enter new relationships excessively positive and quick to push the dynamic as deep as they can as quickly as possible. Then by the time that initial burst of energy wares off, the honeymoon period ends so to speak, the dynamic is deep enough and there is enough nostalgia that they can ride that as they get increasingly manipulative. I suspect you may find that resonates with your experiences with him.
Trust YOUR instincts! If you don’t want to, don’t let him use emotional manipulation to guilt you. That stuff can be saved, used, shared. Now and forever. If you aren’t long distance. Be hard in person. If that’s not good enough move on. You can do better and this is the time and age for it.