If you wouldn’t have found out, would he have continued to jerk off to the video? Ask him that. If something like this would have happened 5-10 years after the marriage it would STILL make some kind of sense and somehow forgivable considering in this age and time when no one is loyal anymore. But 10months in and already finds it easy to do this by mistake, it’ll just make you mistrust him anywhere he goes and that just not a healthy way to online
She's is playing you dude. She's “loves you” but does not want an actual relationship with you. Your mm ost like her rebound if her and her bf do break up. As soon as someone else comes along , she out and so are you…
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Look, the great thing about virginity is that it doesn't really exist. It's just a concept. You have not actually “lost” or “given” anything to this prick
So… first, you need to admit to yourself that this guy was never serious about you. A guy who dates you for several months and insists that you aren't his girlfriend because he “doesn't like labels” is a dick who is either dating or attempting to date other people. I'm sure you knew this, but you tried to pretend otherwise. Everybody learns this lesson at some point. So learn it well. Don't let the pain go to waste. Let it help you make better decisions in the future.
Second, stop dating this guy. If you're so hung up on him you can't admit that he's just not that into you, then you can give him an ultimatum: he can be your monogamous boyfriend, labels and all, or you can go your separate ways. But frankly, are there any number of “in a relationship” labels and couples photos that are ever going to help you really trust him again? No! Because this guy isn't trustworthy.
He's a cheating dick, and you can do better. So get out there, and do better.
He told you he had a FWB without the “benefit”?! LOL! He’s 24 and has never had sex and feels the need to lie about it but doesn’t actually understand how to lie about it?! Does this person have a job? Does he online independently? Is he OK?
OP, you know how he can lie and manipulate. What you just know is about the chat, but who knows if there was something more. They were the persons you could trust and failed. Just go to therapy and cut them off definitely if you are already speaking with him you can’t heal properly. However, it will hurt for life That’s the reason why you won’t trust them never again. Sorry for all the hurt you are suffering.
Just for me personally, this might be a deal breaker. I would have a very very hot time getting over my partner being so disgusted with my genitals that he actually gagged.
If you don’t have any symptoms like itching or stinging or redness or copious, obviously stinky discharge, then you PROBABLY don’t have an infection and your vagina PROBABLY just has a normal vagina-smell.
Some men don’t like that. And some women don’t care if they like it or not. So, if you don’t care about oral sex AND you can get over the embarrassment, then fine. However I just want you to know that if you consider this something you can’t get over, I think that’s very normal and OK.
There are plenty of men out there who LOVE the smell and taste of a healthy pussy. In my opinion, it’s worth it to hold out for one of them.
Do you want to hurt her feelings? You seem like a kind person, I bet you don’t.
Try to take the word “criticism” out of your thought process. She’s not being critical, she’s being honest about her feelings. Remind yourself that she’s not having these feelings to make you feel bad, she’s feeling bad.
Once you’ve accepted that this isn’t criticizing, think about how important these statements or actions are to you. Some things we think, say and do are incredibly important. There are things that are a part of who we are and what we believe. Other things we say and do have little meaning for us. Accept that these actions/statements are hurtful to her. Are they so important to you that you need to continue them? If so, that’s a conversation you need to have, and it could mean the end of your relationship. But she deserves to know what things are non-negotiable for you. Or maybe, you will decide ceasing these behaviours will be worth it to you, considering it could really improve your relationship.
Another piece of advice is for your girlfriend: speak in the moment. If something bothers you, it’s better to deal with it immediately. People tend to feel attacked when the past is dragged up.
“Mate” as in British term for friend. He was with who he said he was with, his male friend and his female friend, that’s what I mean. The female friends partner was also there.
As for my self esteem. I do sometimes struggle with that and you’re probably right that I need to talk this out again with a professional.
Best of luck OP. I know it’s nude. The fact that you’re worried about doing what’s right shows you’re a great mom. ?
If you wouldn’t have found out, would he have continued to jerk off to the video? Ask him that. If something like this would have happened 5-10 years after the marriage it would STILL make some kind of sense and somehow forgivable considering in this age and time when no one is loyal anymore. But 10months in and already finds it easy to do this by mistake, it’ll just make you mistrust him anywhere he goes and that just not a healthy way to online
Do people also randomly shout PIVOT to you?
She's is playing you dude. She's “loves you” but does not want an actual relationship with you. Your mm ost like her rebound if her and her bf do break up. As soon as someone else comes along , she out and so are you…
Find someone else to love.
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Look, the great thing about virginity is that it doesn't really exist. It's just a concept. You have not actually “lost” or “given” anything to this prick
So… first, you need to admit to yourself that this guy was never serious about you. A guy who dates you for several months and insists that you aren't his girlfriend because he “doesn't like labels” is a dick who is either dating or attempting to date other people. I'm sure you knew this, but you tried to pretend otherwise. Everybody learns this lesson at some point. So learn it well. Don't let the pain go to waste. Let it help you make better decisions in the future.
Second, stop dating this guy. If you're so hung up on him you can't admit that he's just not that into you, then you can give him an ultimatum: he can be your monogamous boyfriend, labels and all, or you can go your separate ways. But frankly, are there any number of “in a relationship” labels and couples photos that are ever going to help you really trust him again? No! Because this guy isn't trustworthy.
He's a cheating dick, and you can do better. So get out there, and do better.
He told you he had a FWB without the “benefit”?! LOL! He’s 24 and has never had sex and feels the need to lie about it but doesn’t actually understand how to lie about it?! Does this person have a job? Does he online independently? Is he OK?
Those are three different emotions and he's feeling one and a half of them.
Jealousy = no
Resentful = yes
Insecure = this was what I was calling the half.
OP, you know how he can lie and manipulate. What you just know is about the chat, but who knows if there was something more. They were the persons you could trust and failed. Just go to therapy and cut them off definitely if you are already speaking with him you can’t heal properly. However, it will hurt for life That’s the reason why you won’t trust them never again. Sorry for all the hurt you are suffering.
Just for me personally, this might be a deal breaker. I would have a very very hot time getting over my partner being so disgusted with my genitals that he actually gagged.
If you don’t have any symptoms like itching or stinging or redness or copious, obviously stinky discharge, then you PROBABLY don’t have an infection and your vagina PROBABLY just has a normal vagina-smell.
Some men don’t like that. And some women don’t care if they like it or not. So, if you don’t care about oral sex AND you can get over the embarrassment, then fine. However I just want you to know that if you consider this something you can’t get over, I think that’s very normal and OK.
There are plenty of men out there who LOVE the smell and taste of a healthy pussy. In my opinion, it’s worth it to hold out for one of them.
Do you want to hurt her feelings? You seem like a kind person, I bet you don’t.
Try to take the word “criticism” out of your thought process. She’s not being critical, she’s being honest about her feelings. Remind yourself that she’s not having these feelings to make you feel bad, she’s feeling bad.
Once you’ve accepted that this isn’t criticizing, think about how important these statements or actions are to you. Some things we think, say and do are incredibly important. There are things that are a part of who we are and what we believe. Other things we say and do have little meaning for us. Accept that these actions/statements are hurtful to her. Are they so important to you that you need to continue them? If so, that’s a conversation you need to have, and it could mean the end of your relationship. But she deserves to know what things are non-negotiable for you. Or maybe, you will decide ceasing these behaviours will be worth it to you, considering it could really improve your relationship.
Another piece of advice is for your girlfriend: speak in the moment. If something bothers you, it’s better to deal with it immediately. People tend to feel attacked when the past is dragged up.
“Mate” as in British term for friend. He was with who he said he was with, his male friend and his female friend, that’s what I mean. The female friends partner was also there.
As for my self esteem. I do sometimes struggle with that and you’re probably right that I need to talk this out again with a professional.
You can do better
Right??!!! He’s thrilled he’s convinced her this far I’m sure!
If he hasn't cheated, he's going to. Not only is he garbage but so is the “friend”. You gotta get out and soon.